Tuesday, July 20, 2010

My dad passed away last Monday, after being in the hospital for five days,  he was just tired of being alone, I know he hasn't been happy since my mom passed four years ago.......but he had heart surgery for me two years ago, he had asked me what I wanted him to do, I told him I love you dad, and if it was up to me you would be here with me forever, but you have to do what is right for you, if you feel it is time and you are ready to be with mom, I would have to understand and accept, but I would miss you very much.......so he had the aorta replacement, although he did sign a DNR......He also had renal failure so he knew even with the surgery his time would be limited......with this illness and me not knowing he was ill for five days into it, he was extremely dehydrated, causing his kidneys to almost completely shut down....and he started refusing food........we had decided on hospice and I had gone into the hospital to discuss it with a social worker......and was signing the papers when dad just quit breathing, he didn't want to be messed with any more.......he went peacefully Thank God........no pain...... he went quietly, as I would have expected, he was always a quiet  calm man in life, I loved and looked up to him, he was the most honest respectable good man, I have ever known................I miss him so much

11 comments:

  1. My heart goes out to you. So glad you got to be with him.

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  2. I've been lurking for a while, but when I read this, I wanted to reach out. I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts...

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  3. Know that many thoughts and prayers are with you!

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  4. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  5. Norma

    I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had words that would help but there are none. {{HUGS}}

    Nancy

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  6. Oh, I'm so very sorry for your loss...I suppose the most any of us can hope for is to go peacefully at our time. What a sad time for you :(

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  7. I am so, so incredibly sorry. I wish I had the proper words, but know you're thought of, and I am hear, even though I'm just a bloggy friend, in case you need an ear.

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  8. I am so terribly sorry to read such a sad post. Your Father sounds like he was a wonderful man and will be sorely missed. My condolences to you - sending you a hug.

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  9. Big Hugs to you, my dear. Losing our parents is a really difficult thing. My heart is with you. Know that He and your Mom are watching over you.
    Hugs,
    Marla James

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  10. I Have just come across your blog. I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences.

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  11. I am so sorry for your loss, but you know he is with Mom and he is happy, no more loneliness, no more pain and they are watching over you. I pray that you will be strong.

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